BE A VALUE ADDED LADY

When you marry a man without backbone, a man who can't defend his wife and children but always "yes, sir/ma" to extended family members, you can't but do without being treated like a thrash when you become a wife in such a family in Africa. 

Things like this are seen but jettisoned because "love is blind" during courtship.

When you go visit your fiance's family members, especially during  introduction, observe how they deal with him in their family, how they respect his decision and how they carry you.

Watch and pray. Don't be carried away by initial gragra called "love is blind."

You ladies, even if you don't have all the money, when you are going to visit your fiance's family members, especially his parents or those who rep his parents, in case he's an orphan, at least buy few things for them and present yourself well when you get there.

Don't go there as if your parents are pushing you away now now to marry their son and don't go there to eat and drink disgracing your family members as if you don't have food to eat where you are coming from.

Have some carriage, let them see you have some class at least. Be humble, respectful, show  courtesies, we are Africans, not Americans.

 Give your mother in-law, and possibly if your fiance's elder siblings come around to see you during the introduction/Parental Consent, some helping hands within the few hours you are going to spend there before you go back home, don't raise your shoulders as if you don't sweep or wash dishes in your house,  let them be the one (s) to tell you, "My wife/our wife, please, go and sit down, you need some rest, you came from a long journey, etcetera.

                  BE A VALUE ADDED LADY

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