What Christian brothers go through after being jilted

I pray God will bring the lady back to Him.

I pray the brother will find help in this time of need (emotionally and mentally) before it affects his spirituality.

Bcos many atimes, when you have given everything in your heart for love on a sister and you are already in courtship, forsaken all, only looking forward to your wedding night, then the unexpected news came steering at your face, if care is not taking, one may lose his spiritual life (even though church activities may still be going on and people hailing you that you are a strong man), but your prayer life and meditation is going down_ your fire on the altar will soon be blown out, there is outward showmanship but the candlelight and oil of grace are running down.

Brothers, help our sisters, sisters, be focused.

You brothers, how will you be in courtship and you are observing that your gal is having some movements that are questionable, after calling her attention to it, you are not seeing any changes and you are keeping quiet?

Report her to her pastor, if it's to take the case to the Marriage Committee, do it. That's why the church leadership is there. We are not there to be preaching on Sunday, that's not our primary assignment. Pastors are shepherds, to WATCH over the flock of Christ.

If you report her and she's not humble to open up or gets angry, please, officially cut off the courtship, go into prayers, Satan may just want to manipulate her bcos of your future together.

But if no changes, with prayers, faith and patience, please, let go.

Be free from entanglement, don't let anybody's blood be requested from your hands, don't be part of it.

*THE SANE THING GOES TO OUR SISTERS*

Don't forget, a broken Christian courtship is better than a broken marriage. 

Again, avoid too much show and being seeing during courtship. You don't really need it. Let people anticipate to come and see the beautiful lady or handsome man you are getting married to on your wedding day (traditional and or church).

If 90% have been seeing you together amongst the people you are giving wedding invitation card, what is the surprise you have for them again on your wedding day?

There's what we call suspense in literature.

It shall be well... We counsel but can't act for people

Segun Okeowo AJAYI © King David's Pen 🖋️

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