SEX AFTER PAYMENT OF DOWRY?

I HOPE THIS IS CLEAR ENOUGH.

Putting succinctly, if after traditional marriage and registry (court wedding), he can't hold on despite speaking with him over and over to wait, l will simply advise you to go to your pastors for their blessings which can be done in their sitting room with few brethren or leaders or workers in your church at the pastor's house then you move in with him as husband and wife.

BUT never, l repeat, NEVER, start sleeping with each other if you MUST still go to the altar of the Lord to be joined together.

It's called holy matrimony and what makes it holy is that the bed is undefiled.

It's better you don't go for church wedding than going to the altar, appeared before the people of God as if you are still chased.

Church wedding is not in the Bible.

If he doesn't have the money, stop being a channel of temptation to him. 

Your parents have prayed for you at the traditional marriage. People were there as witnesses. Don't bring unnecessary yokes upon yourselves if money for church wedding is not available.

IF YOU DON'T DO CHURCH WEDDING, YOU WON'T DIE. WEARING WHITE GOWN WON'T IS NOT AN EMBLEM OF A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE.

You have done the most important thing, stop tempting him.

Again, if you MUST still go for church wedding, PLEASE, NEVER HAVE SEX.

YOU CAN'T JOIN YOURSELVES TOGETHER IN BLOOD AND WATER COVENANT ALREADY YET COMING BEFORE THE ALTAR OF GOD AND PRESENTING YOURSELVES BEFORE GOD'S PEOPLE AS IF YOU ARE STILL CHASTE, THAT'S SINFUL.

Yes, my wife and I did church wedding. We did traditional marriage on Friday and did church wedding the following day, Saturday.

We already both concluded with our families and leadership of the church to have church wedding. 

Adequate plans should always be made in agreement during courtship to avoid issues like this. It's not good tempting each other in the name of what won't add to the success of your home, won't take you to heaven or take heaven away from you either you do it or not (referring to church wedding)

This idea of unnecessary one month to three months time interval btw traditional wedding and church wedding should stop. 

It's an unnecessary burden and suffering people are putting on themselves

However, if it's a denominational setting in which small gathering, like just about 10-20 people coming together in the church to witness the joining together, it's not a must that it must be in the church then.

In fact, it's the people coming together to call on the Name of Jesus Christ that makes a building a place of worship.

If people are coming together to worship, praise, share the bread of life (the scriptures) and pray at home, it's a church.

The church started at home (House Fellowship) in the New Testament. You will hear Apostle Paul write "Great the church at this and this person's house).

 AFTER YOU HAVE SPOKEN WITH YOUR PASTORS/LEADERS AND THEY ACCEPTED AND BLESSED YOUR UNION, if wearing wedding gown is a must, sew it or borrow, let him wear his suit (either newly bought or has one somewhat new at home), call photographer, he snaps you in different postures, you have your frames for the sitting room and pictures to post on social media (because that's one of the major reasons ladies always insist on church wedding).

IT'S NOT EASY SPENDING MILLIONS ON CHURCH WEDDING/RECEPTION THESE DAYS IN THIS ECONOMY.

Christians married during COVID-19 lockdown when churches weren't allowed to come together or when there was restrictions on number of people who could come together in places of worship 😊

They did their traditional marriage in their sitting room, their pastors and leaders prayed for them, they wore their gowns and suits, snapped pictures, dud frames and posted pictures on social media.

I know many of them and they're doing fine today.

Life is Good (LG). We should not be making life unnecessarily complex when they're not rules or commandments or injunctions of the scriptures.

DON'T BRING CURSES ON YOURSELF SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU JUST WANT TO GO AMD DO CHURCH WEDDING AND TO RECEIVE THE APPLAUSE OF MEN WHEN GOD IS UNHAPPY WITH YOU.

 Hebrews 13:4

 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

(ONCE YOU HAVE HAD SEX AFTER PAYMENT OF DOWRY, YOU HAVE ALREADY JOINED YOURSELVES TOGETHER AS ONE BLOOD. STAY AWAY FROM COMING TO THE ALTAR OF GOD, APPEARING AS TWO PEOPLE READY TO BE JOINED AGAIN AS ONE WHEN YOU ALREADY JOINED YOURSELVES TOGETHER AS ONE BEFORE COMING TO THE CHURCH.

 It's whoremongering and defiling of the altar of the worship of God Almighty and God said He would judge such.)

Hebrews 13:7

Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.

(Verse 7, obey your spiritual leaders. Speak with them heart to heart if you don't have money for church wedding preparations. Let them agree with you and pray for you then you start coming together as one_ sex).

OBEY THEM, THEY HAVE RULE OVER YOU AND THEY WILL ACCOUNT FOR YOU IN ETERNITY. 

YOU ARE NOT JUST THE OWNERS OF YOUR LIVES.

     © S.O. AJAYI (KING DAVID PEN🖋️)