QUESTION AND ANSWERS FOR THE MARRIED

           QUESTION AND ANSWERS 

                   FOR THE MARRIED

Please, what can possibly make a woman starve her hubby sexually or what can make a man starve his wife sexually?

ANSWER 

Beloved, there are couple of issues from either party: 

1. LOW LIBIDO: Some couple face this challenge in the home, either they were born that way or the challenge came up at some point. 

There are couple that do meet in 6months because of this challenge.  

One engagement relaxes them till the next 6months or one of them till the next 6months. 

2. OVER SPIRITUALITY: Do YOU know some believe regular intimacy with yr spouse amount to carnality? 

A brother told me he can't remember when last that happened in his home during a counselling session with him and I asked why?

 He said he tot it was carnal people that indulge in such for he was carried away with spiritual things.

 And he came down with prostrate and people tell us how regular intimacy help men escape prostrate challenge to certain extent. 

3. ONE-SIDED PLEASURE: Some people do NOT engage their partners before the actual game, especially men. 

There was this case of a Sister who will pinch their little baby whenever Oga moves towards her for intimacy. 

Why do you think she does that, is because she gains little or nothing when they relate. 

If the woman gets satisfied and reaches orgasm in every sexual act, she'll be the one looking forward to having you each night because of the mutual pleasure being experienced. 

If YOU as a man enjoys it ALL alone, you are equally starving her despite she allows YOU each time to have ur way.

 If YOU do NOT satisfy her, yr starving her too.

 Starvation is NOT lack of sex but also lack of satisfaction from sex.

4. PRIDE: Some people believe sexual advances should be from either the husband or wife, it's NOT cast on the stone who should approach the partner, if YOU fill him/her pls do well to advance and get on the stage. 

But if your looking at who should initiate it then you'll be starving yrself unnecessarily.

5. LESS OR LACK OF LOVE IN THE HOME: When love dips in the home, everything dips with it including sex. 

That's why YOU prayerfully keep the fire of love on. 

6. UNKEMPT ENVIRONMENT: When YOU continually promote dirt despite yr spouse outcry, it will affect yr relationship sexually. Personal and environmental hygiene is VERY important. 

A brother didn't relate with the wife for months and when the Sister could no longer cope, she reported the Brother and when summoned said her hair smells. 

7. LOOK ATTRACTIVE: Recently someone wanted a divorce but one of my member begged her to speak to me before she file for divorce.

 I spoke with her and when I was done I asked "YOU still want a divorce"? 

She said no... what was one of the problem, the husband do not find her attractive. 

I remember I asked her if she wears tight to bed? 

She said yes... I  asked why? She said since they got wedded about two yrs now that had been the practice. I said no... And corrected That. 

You MUST look smart in the bedroom. 

Men even in marriage are still being moved by what they see especially Sisters.

Please, look for HIGH-POWERED bedroom wears.

 The one yr partner will see and CANNOT think of resistance. 

Don't go and cover everywhere in the bedroom, YOU'LL "kill" his drive eventually. 

8. STRESS: This easily can kill bedroom activity BIG time. 

That's why I advocate mutual responsibility. 

Don't allow ONLY one person to carry the whole family burden. 

Let's help each other and we'll be fine. 

9. SATANIC MANIPULATION: Some people are under spell.

I remember a couple that came for counselling few yrs ago, he doesn't touch the wife and before the wife he told me how other women including minors sets his body on fire but immediately he sees the wife every urge dies.

10. SICKNESS: Some people are sick and their spouse aren't aware and some are. 

I remember a  case of a man who became impotent at some point. 

And he picks up quarrel immediately he comes back from work to avert intimacy. 

Until he opened up.

 I challenge YOU to open up and get help. 

The list is endless, let me stop here. 

Others can add to the list pls. 

May God deliver our homes in Jesus' Name.

               

                        © Igwe Nwachukwu